Swapping two terms does not change the value because the tokens on the table do not change — only the order in which we put them down changes.
Take 6 + (–4). Put down 6 positive tokens, then 4 negative tokens. Four zero-pairs cancel, leaving 2 positives, i.e. 2.
Take (–4) + 6. Put down 4 negative tokens first, then 6 positive tokens. The same four zero-pairs cancel, leaving 2 positives, i.e. 2.