Teasing that goes on and on is not a joke. It hurts, and it is the most important of these five situations. The word “keeps” in the question matters — this has happened before, and it will happen again tomorrow unless something changes.
What I would do — three things, in this order
- Go and stand with the child who is being teased. This is the first and strongest thing. Walk over, stand beside them, and say, “Come, let us go.” Teasing usually stops when the teaser sees that the other person is not alone.
- Say one clear sentence to the one who is teasing — calmly, without insulting back: “Stop. That is not funny.” Then walk away with the other child. Do not argue, do not tease back, do not fight. Answering rudeness with rudeness only makes it bigger.
- Tell a teacher the same day. If it has happened more than once, an adult must know. This is not tale-telling. Tale-telling is reporting someone to get them into trouble; this is reporting so that someone stops being hurt. If I were afraid to say it aloud, I would write it on a slip and give it to my class teacher.
And afterwards
- Sit with the child at lunch. Ask them to join the game. Being included is what actually undoes the hurt — much more than any punishment for the teaser.
- Do not laugh, even a little, when someone is being made fun of. The laughing crowd is what keeps teasing going. A silent group ends it very fast.
- If it is happening to me, I will tell my class teacher and my parents on the same day. It is never my fault, and I do not have to bear it quietly.
Steps to prevent it
- Make one class rule together and write it on the wall: “We do not make fun of anyone — not their name, their body, their clothes, their language, their family or their marks.”
- Have a “No Name-calling Week”, and a class box where anyone can drop a note about something that is troubling them, without writing their name.
- Change the groups for games and projects often, so the same children are not always left out.
- Make sure nobody sits alone at lunch or stands alone at games — every group takes one more person in.
- Ask the teacher for a class circle time where children can say how something made them feel, and everybody listens without interrupting.
Why standing beside someone works so well: Teasing needs an audience. It stops when the audience stops enjoying it and starts standing on the other side. You do not have to be big or brave or good at arguing to do this. You only have to walk across and stand there. In every study of this, one friend is what makes the difference to the child being teased — not the punishment given to the other one.
The line to remember: a joke is funny for everybody, including the person it is about. The moment one person is not laughing, it has stopped being a joke.